Real Lives

Connecting with the community

Ali (foreground) at Octavia’s coffee morning

Living in North Kensington and originally from Lebanon, Ali, 66, felt a sense of disconnection with his community, a lack of opportunity to meet and get to know others, and a lack of access to the outside world. Moving to the UK in 1994, he briefly lived in South London before laying down roots in Kensington. Integrating into the community proved challenging, as did his search for local support. After being introduced to Octavia’s befriending, outreach and activities service, the coffee mornings became a weekly staple in Ali’s diary – a social activity that helped build and sustain his confidence and motivation to leave his home.

“I used to push myself to wake up only to go to Octavia’s coffee mornings. It was so nice to sit in Costa– socializing and mixing with others. Seeing children play, young people chat, and others go about their daily business. Watching the everyday world go by and feeling part of it. It reminded me what it feels like to be a human being.”

For Ali, it wasn’t about meeting kindred spirits or like-minded peers. With friends and family far away, what he valued most about the meetups was simply the opportunity to connect and converse with others.

“Each person that attended was different and had their own unique story, but we all got on well together and found things to talk about. I don’t have friends and family here, so this was one of the only chances I had to enjoy conversation with others in person. I live alone in a basement flat with no view or access to sunshine. After experiencing a great deal of loneliness, I used to sometimes feel like the world was against me. But the coffee mornings changed that. They improved my mental health and gave me something to look forward to.’

As well as tackling the root causes of his social isolation, Octavia’s group befriending activities have helped Ali to keep his mind and body active and discover new hobbies.

“I’ve also attended other activities including a games session and a chair-based exercise class. The class was tough at first, but it was great to get my heart pumping and body moving. I’ve since tried to incorporate some of the movements into my daily routine.”

Ali contracted Covid-19 in March and has since suffered with some of the long-term repercussions of the illness. Living alone and without a local support network to rely on, he turned to Octavia for help. A weekly phone call and several food parcels kept Ali going and his basic needs tended to. Much of this, he says, is due to the genuine dedication and know-how of his outreach worker.

“My outreach worker, Andy, phones me every week to see how I’m doing. Whilst I was in self-isolation and recovering from the virus, he arranged for food bank parcels to be delivered to my home every week. Without this essential support, I don’t know what I would have done. At the end of every conversation, he always says that I can contact him if I need help. It’s reassuring to know that help is just a phone call away.”

For many people living in a single-person household, lockdown has meant dealing with a relentless and often grinding solitude. During these periods of isolation, Octavia’s outreach calls have been a beacon of light for Ali.

“My weekly phone calls with my outreach worker have been my window into the outside world. Our conversations flow naturally, and I feel able to open up to him about my struggles. Even just a ten-minute chat can make a difference.”



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